4 Ways To Build An Amazing Connection
An absolute master on building connections and relationships, Dale Carnegie talks about how you can increase your influence on other people and build a healthy relationship with them in his best-seller, How To Win Friends And Influence People. This book is an absolute game-changer. I have personally read this book more than 3 times. In this article, I will be sharing 4 ways out of the many more he describes. Think about them, analyze, observe the chances in your personal life to apply them and apply!
1. Say all the bad stuff about yourself before the other person has a chance to say it.
This is an awesome tip I have never thought about before reading this book. Think about it, if you admit to all the bad stuff about you before the other person has a chance to criticize you, what will be their reaction? They will not criticize you themselves, as they will see that you are aware of these flaws. Even more, they might start defending you – saying that it is not as bad as you personally think. This is the true mastery of handling a conversation!
2. Adopt a friendly approach
From the beginning of the conversation, or even more, from the beginning of the contact you have with the other person, you should be trying to become their friend. Adopt a friendly approach, give them a compliment, don’t criticize, focus on the positive, focus on their opinions first. They will love you for that. By the way, if you apply this well, it can solve many many problems you couldn’t solve through arguments and criticism. People are people, they will make mistakes. How do you solve them? You relate and adopt a friendly approach.
3. Keep on emphasizing the things on which you agree
As I mentioned above, you want to start on a positive note. The best way to do this is to talk about the things the other person will agree upon with you. Get the other person saying yes many times before you get to the point of the conversation. This will create a positive image in their mind and any kind of communication will become much easier.
4. Make suggestions, but let the other person decide
You wan to be the one who controls the conversation, but you also shouldn’t want to be the one who makes the final decisions. What does this mean? You lead the conversation towards the outcome you are looking for, but the final decision is made by the other person. Is this manipulation? Nope. You keep honest, you keep genuine, but you aim to show the other person how both of you will benefit from the outcome you are looking for. This is not manipulation, this is relationship mastery with a win-win situation at the end.
Thanks for reading! A little disclaimer here… Unless you actually apply these tips, nothing will change. Furthermore, if you don’t apply them soon you will probably forget about anything you just read.