Who can change your life?!

During this time of pandemic where there is an enormous number of job layoffs of experienced employees, rejections of graduate students, and death of many businesses, many people are experiencing failure in their life. 

I got curious about how some overcome the failure. Why some move on after losing their company and why some go into depression when they lose their job?

After some research, I have learned that there are generally three mindsets people develop to cope with failure:

  1. Stay down – They just can’t believe this happened and accept defeat for the rest of their life. They turn sceptical on everything and get into a complaining zone.
  2. Recover – This is the mindset of the majority. They somehow recover from that incident and reach the same area where they were before they failed. But from now, they are incredibly cautious. They like to live in a comfort zone and do not want to take those real risks. They like the things the way they are and will instead accept the normality as the reality than to risk the present for a better future.
  3. Grow – This is the mentality of the top 2% in this world. These people not only recover; they grow, look for opportunities and move ahead.

Admittedly, not everyone with this mindset is in the 2% club. But most of them at don’t have any regrets, a feeling common among people with recover mindset.

So how can you actually start developing that growth mindset?

Step #1: Follow the learning cycle, CONSISTENTLY

Hard work will not get you through; you need that smart work to get the ball rolling in your favour. But how do you do that? You can follow these steps:

  1. Try
  2. Fail
  3. Learn
  4. Grow

It is highly likely that you will fail again and repeat the cycle until you see the results you wanted. But this is a good thing about failing, you get to meet your real self. You become more durable and you start developing your character.

Step #2: Find someone who has gone through this path

In this world of information, it is so easy to connect to people through LinkedIn, Instagram, Facebook and many more. Rather than scrolling down through your comfortable non-productive posts, find people who can help you get better. Robert Kiyosaki, the author of New-York best-selling books, once flew to Peru to learn about IPO (initial public offering) just on friend’s instruction who was a pioneer in that area. 

A mentor will look at your life from a higher level put in his experiences and give you feedback on what you can do to grow. Become a student and keep on your learning hat.

Step #3: One-step-at-a-time

I was amazed to know the power of what small changes can do in one’s life.

Novak Djokovic became the number one tennis player in the world from 100+ rank by improving his decision rate per shot from 49% to 55%. The six per cent increase in efficiency made him earn around $14 million annually by playing the game. Start with something big, one step at a time. Take that big vision; take it down into actionable steps and consistently pursue them. 

If you are the person who still has not experienced failure, trust me, you will someday. Those who know what I am talking about, think about how you want to cope with the next setback: growth or scepticism. 

My mentor always tells us to learn from a mistake, reflect, adjust and then act. When people simply move after the error, they do it again, leading to failure and disappointment. You need someone who can help you do the reflection well.

So, in this moment of distress find someone who is humble, successful and ready to share their knowledge without much in return. 

When you look back after this pandemic ends, you will thank yourself.

Written by Shantanu Sharma, editted and published by The Real Life Education Team


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