How To Be A Person Who Can Handle Criticism
If you are reading this article, chances are that you are looking to step out of the crowd. Chances are that you might have already done so and that you have developed your personal vision and are already pursuing it. Either way, the moment you step out from the crowd is the moment people will start pointing fingers at you. You will have to deal with criticism.
It is very much like the 2 crabs in a basket example. The moment one tries to get out, the second one will try to pull him back in. Not everyone you meet will be like that. Some people will support you no matter what. Keep them close to you. However, some people will criticise you and you need to learn about how you can take that criticism. This is exactly what John Maxwell talks about in his book Be A People Person and this is what we’ll look into in this article.
How Do You Approach Criticism?
The question is not: Will I be confronted? The question is: When I am confronted, how will I approach the confrontation? Whatever you do, you will be criticised. So don’t waste your time thinking you won’t be. You will. Here are some points and tips you need to pay attention to when approaching criticism:
- Understand the difference between constructive and destructive criticism – is the person trying to tear you down, or build you up?
- Look beyond the criticism and see the critic – are they someone worth listening to? Do they have the fruit on the tree?
- Watch your own attitude towards the critic – a negative attitude towards criticism makes it even more destructive. Learn to approach criticism with grace and an open mind.
- See if there is a crowd behind the critic – is there more people criticising you? Are they credible? Should you take their criticism into consideration and change something?
- Concentrate on your mission and change your mistakes – be willing to change your mistakes, if that change brings you closer to where you want to be.
Does The Critic Have Vested Interest In My Success?
When dealing with criticism, it is very important to understand where it is coming from and what is the motivation behind it. Are you dealing with someone who really wants to help you grow and develop? Is it someone you should pay attention to? Do they benefit from your improvement? Are they someone who only wants to bring you back down? Think through these questions. You can actually learn lots of great lessons by paying attention to the right people. On the other hand, you can hurt yourself badly if you listen to the wrong person that has bad intentions.
Criticism can ruin relationships, but it can also build them up. See criticism as a building block for success, not as a roadblock standing in your way.