Progress Booster 101

One of the greatest lessons I’ve learned in the last couple of years of constant interaction with different people, from different cultures, coming from different places of the world is that we live in a world where constant gratification is something engraved into our brains. Everyone wants to succeed and everyone wants to succeed now. Many people don’t want to go through the process of dying but want to be up in heaven right now. Constant gratification is something that has been ruining many people’s mindset and very likely yours as well. It is something I am personally battling every day as well. Developing the mindset of delayed gratification is incredibly hard in the modern world. A question that comes up quite often is – For how long do I have to delay? The answer to that question is – as long as you need to. It depends on your specific case. However, I can give you a way of significantly shortening that amount of time. Let’s take a look at how we can do that.

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How Do We Progress?

We are naturally programmed for adaptation. Thanks to our brain, it is very simple for us to adapt to external conditions. What is the process of learning? It is a process of adaptation. I personally went through (and am still going through) 3 different types of curriculums – public, private and university. I studied in a public school in Central Europe, a private school in China and a university in the UK. How did I manage to go through that? I adapted. This is something I have understood when I graduated from high school in Beijing. It is also something I have been practicing in sports throughout my entire life and that has allowed me to do so well in school. I adapted. I messed up, reflected, adjusted and tried again. This process repeated many times in a row simply led to my adaptation to the requirements for me to succeed in any area of my life. This is how we learn, this is how we grow. So how do you boost your progress? How do you steepen your learning curve?

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The Ultimate Booster of Your Progress

Bearing in mind the learning and adaptation process I have described, how can you utilize its understanding to your advantage? How do you progress faster? You simply have to go through that cycle more often. In very simple terms, you try more often, you fail more often, you adjust more often and you try again more often. It is as simple as that. Fail more and you will learn more. The first step for most of us is to get rid of the fear of failing. This is something that has been programmed into our minds by our education system. We are taught that F, F, F, A is still a fail. Why? In my eyes, you have figured it out at the end, thus you know how to do it. How come you’re still failing? This is something that school doesn’t teach you, but life hopefully will. The second step is to find a good way of reflecting on your failures so you can adjust in a proper way. That will cut the learning curve even steeper. Now, let’s buckle up and fail forwards!

 

5 Rules for A Life of 100+

We are all very busy people. Busy with our studies, with our jobs, busy browsing on social media, busy watching Netflix or busy building our dreams. Whatever it is, modern society puts you in a position where you have absolutely no time left for yourself. It is your job to understand this and to create that time. The time for solitude, the time for meditation, the time for peace and also the time to pay attention to your health. More than 50 million Americans are considered obese and many millions of them suffer from something called mortal obesity. What does that mean? That means that their life is threatened by the condition they’re in as it can lead to many diseases often connected with heart problems. Is this a problem? Absolutely. How do you expect someone to make their vision become a reality when they’re struggling with their own health? How do you expect someone to live the life they want to live when they can’t even handle their own health? In this article, I will give you 5 rules you can utilize in your daily diet to keep yourself going for the big 100 and above.

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The picture above represents obesity rates in Australia in June 2018

#1 Rewire Your Thinking about Food

Many people are stuck with the ideology that food should bring you pleasure and happiness. They think about the taste and the pleasure it brings them. As human beings, we are programmed to shift from pain to pleasure, thus food can often serve as a motivator. This is a fundamentally flawed method of thinking because food should serve as a fuel for our body. Start thinking about your body as a car. Depending on the quality of the fuel you use, it will either work for a long time or it will break down in a couple of years. Feed your body healthy, light foods and start looking for pleasure in your long-term vision!

#2 Eat The Right Foods

This might sound too complex to execute, but it really isn’t. It isn’t that hard to look up where to go to eat out, is it? In the same way, it isn’t hard to look up how you should structure your diet based on the results you want to see. Do you want to lose weight? Do you want to gain weight? Do you want to strengthen your body? Do you want more energy? All the materials for you to learn what you need to do are out there. All you need to do is be smart about it and look for reliable sources.

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#3 See The 3 Poisons? Run!

The three white poisons are salt, sugar and flour. The modern mainstream diet contains foods that are literally soaked in sugar and salt. Try looking at the packagings of the foods you buy. Try to find a ham that isn’t oversalted. Try to find a yogurt that is not oversweetened. It is a challenge in some superstores. Another issue is white flour that is included in foods like breads, rolls, pastries of all kinds, bagels and donuts. All of these are filled with carbs that will make you fat. Do make further research about how specifically do these 3 poisons hurt your health and remember, look for the long-run impacts!

#4 Excercise as much as You Can!

Exercise is not only beneficial for athletes. Your body is begging you to start exercising! It won’t only allow you to go easier on your diet, but it will help your body develop more energy, become more efficient with it and strengthen your stamina. There is also research saying that a morning run leads to the release of endorphins that make you feel better than if you eat something you really like. Looking for a pleasure? Better start running!

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#5 Drink Lots Of Water

Lastly, you need to be hydrated properly throughout the day. As I mentioned above, many of us are too busy to look out for these little things. Well, if you looked out for them, you wouldn’t have to be so busy because your productivity will burst through the ceiling! You need approximately two full quarts of water throughout the day to maintain the proper level of hydration in your body. Instead of sipping some water here and there, develop a habit of drinking at least 1 glass of water every hour. 

 

Use these 5 rules to bump up your health and performance. In the long run, you will see a huge, huge difference. You will not understand how can the people around you be so tired all the time. And you will hit that 100 years mark. It is not a matter of coincidence, it is a matter of design and consistency.

3 Steps to Success in Continuous Learning

As you can probably tell by now, we’re all about self-development and empowerment of others here at The Real Life Education. Self-development and personal growth has been viewed by many as a school of thought that has been growing in popularity in the last couple of years. It has been getting more and more attention as people have started understanding its true power. What I want to give you in this article are simple 3 steps you should focus on as you start engaging in this journey of growth and continuous learning. Write them down somewhere in your notebook and think about how you can apply these 3 steps in the area of your interest.

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Step 1: Arise in The Morning and Read 30-60 Minutes in The Area of Your Interest

This step is incredibly important. Why? Because it will help you in more than just one single way. Firstly, it will help you start your day productively. You will feel amazing after your reading session in the morning. You will also feel super ahead as most people are sleeping and you’re already putting in the work to grow yourself. Additionally, if you read 30-60 minutes each day, this will add up to about one book per week. The average American reads less than one book per year. If you read one book per week, this will add up to about 50 books each year. As it happens, to earn a Ph.D. from a major university requires the reading and synthesis into a dissertation of about 40 to 50 books (Million Dollar Habits). If you develop this habit and stick to it for long enough, there is no way you won’t be able to outperform anyone around you. All you need to do is look at the greater picture. This is something called The Compound Effect (also a very good book by the way). In 5 years, you will have read about 250 books – exactly 245 more than an average American. In 10 years, it will be 500 books – 490 books more than an average American. What a boost!!

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Step 2: Develop The Habit of Attending Every Possible Seminar You Can

The second step you should take is to start your research. Start looking up events close to the place where you stay. Seminars are amazing as they allow you to put yourself in a room full of people who are heading in the same direction. They are an amazing place to learn from the best as well as to network, create connections and grow with others. They are also very practical because you usually get to speak to the speaker after the seminar. This makes them more engaging both in terms of creating relationships and gaining knowledge and expertise in your area of interest. There are many, many more benefits that can be specific to the seminars you attend. Get proactive!

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Step 3: Listen to Audios Whenever You Can

The last, but not the least important step is listening to podcasts as often as possible. Podcasts allow you to learn on the move. In the commute, when cooking, walking your dog, exercising, etc. It is one of the most effective ways of learning. Podcasts connect you with an expert in the area of your interest and allow you to listen to that person’s experiences, tips, and tricks. These audios also help you get back on the positive note of your day. Listening to successful people on a daily basis will not only build your mindset but also expand your vision as you understand that what they did is possible. Look them up and start listening!!

One very important tip to remember is carrying a little notebook or using your phone to make notes. Always, always, always make notes. Review them and pick the steps you can utilize to grow.

A Winner’s Goal Setting Formula

Goals are something that we should all have or aim to identify. Where are you heading to? Why are you doing this? What’s the point? What’s the outcome? These questions should accompany us along the way of setting up a SMART goal. SMART here stands for – specific, measurable, achievable, realistic and time-constrained. When you’re looking to achieve your dreams, it is a good idea to split them into smaller SMART goals that will allow you to progress in the right direction. Unfortunately, this is not something they teach you in school, thus we take the responsibility here at The Real Life Education to ensure that you get the necessary information to take action upon so that you can turn it into knowledge and get the desired results. In this article, we’ll present the successful goal setting formula from the book Million Dollar Habits by Brian Tracy.

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The Ultimate Goal Setting Formula

I’ll be giving you 7 specific steps you can utilize to set up your goals in the most effective way. I highly recommend taking these 7 steps and writing them down somewhere so you can take them in the future and put them into practice. I also want you to be aware of the fact that you shouldn’t be setting up too many goals at the same time. This will only divert your attention from your priorities and reduce your efficiency in return.

Step #1 Decide What You Want and Write It Down

Figuring out what priorities you have is probably the first and the core step you need to take in order to set up your goals effectively. Once you have successfully prioritized, you want to make sure that you write your goal down. Make it specific and measurable so it is easier for you to track.

Step #2 Set A Deadline For The Achievement of Your Goal

Putting a time range on your goal gives you a sense of urgency, which is a point where you feel like you really need to take action to achieve that goal. You should always aim to operate in this area, however you also need to make sure that you’re patient and that you’re not rushing anything. In short, push yourself but use common sense.

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Step #3 Make A List of Everything You Have to Do to Achieve It

As I mentioned above, deconstructing your goal into smaller tasks will allow you to stay more focused and to systematically pursue your goal step by step. This also makes your progress easily trackable, which can give you a small boost in confidence and motivation since you will see your accomplishments as you go.

Step #4 Organise The Small Steps into A Plan

It is always good to plan. Not for the sake of going by the plan, but for the sake of having planned. This will give you a sense of direction and it will make your steps seem more holistic as the plan will connect the dots for you.

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Step #5 Identify The Constraints that Are Holding You Back and Figure Out A Way to Overcome Them

This step goes hand in hand with your plan. You want to make sure that apart from seeing what steps you need to take to move forward, you also need to understand what roadblocks you will be overcoming, how you can overcome them and when they are most likely to pop up.

Step #6 Step Out in Faith

Simply start making it happen. Have faith that you can do it and start making it happen. Take action!

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Step #7 Do Something Every Day that Moves You Towards Your Goal

Develop a habit of doing something daily that moves you towards your goal. Babysteps are the factor that wins the game. Develop a sustainable, consistent habit of making these small steps so you can move towards your goal on a daily basis. Most importantly, don’t break the cycle.

What’s There To Be Scared Of?

We’re all born with one tremendous quality. We are all born unafraid. As weird as it might sound now, you were not afraid of anything when you were born. Fear is a completely learned emotion. According to Brian Tracy, we are all born unafraid and spontaneous. Brian Tracy is the author of a very successful book called Million Dollar Habits, where he talks about many aspects of a positive and successful personality and traits that can lead you to your success, no matter how you define it. In this article, I want to give you a brief overview of how fear works. This will help you understand that you can control it and revert it, however bad it might seem.

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Starting in early childhood, we pick up on many behavioral habits of our parents as well as we create our own reactions to the behavior they direct towards us. In most cases, we begin to learn the two negative behavioral patterns that then affect our lives.

Inhibitive Negative Pattern

The first habit is the fear of failure, risk and loss. This is very interesting because a great part of this is dependent on the way we are treated when we’re growing up. Many people use threats and punishment when their children misbehave or when they do something dangerous like touching a pot with boiling water. Naturally, children are programmed to seek love from their parents.  Now if they do something bad and their parents punish them or criticize them, they start feeling nervous and frightened. This is very important because many psychologists say that most, if not all, adult problems are rooted in the phenomena they call “love withheld” in early childhood. Understand that children don’t know that their parents are doing this to keep them safe. They will think something along the lines: “Oh, every time I try something new my mom gets angry, it is probably my fault, it is probably because I am incompetent, it is probably because I can’t do it.”

This starts transforming into your habitual behavior. Soon, when you start thinking about doing something new, your habit of fearing failure kicks in and you end up talking yourself out of it. Napoleon Hill once said something along the lines – The number of trials an average person takes before giving up on something new is less than 1. That basically means that most people give up even before trying.

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According to Brian Tracy, the best way to overcome this fear is a frequent repetition of the phrase “I can do it!” This starts reprogramming your subconscious mind and after some time, you will reduce that fear to the degree that allows you to try out practically anything new without any greater feeling of fear.

Compulsive Negative Habit Pattern

The second fear we develop through our lives regards the fear of rejection or criticism. When we’re young, parents often use rejection and criticism to show us that we did something wrong and that they don’t like it. Since all children are programmed to last for the love of their parents, they immediately pull back from the behavior to regain the love of their parents. According to Brian Tracy, this often turns into the use of the carrot and stick method by the parents.

They alternate with approval and disapproval, with compliments and criticism, to control and manipulate the child’s behavior (Million Dollar Habits).

This leads to the creating of a habit that forces the child to conform its behavior to the standard, to the mainstream in order to gain approval from others.

When the fear of rejection becomes extreme, the individual becomes so hypersensitive to the opinions of others that he or she cannot make a decision until he or she is absolutely convinced that everyone in the world around them will approve and support the decision (Million Dollar Habits).

The worst scenario that many people experience is the combination of the two. When people feel like they have to do something to gain the approval of others, but they can’t because they’re afraid of failure since it is something new, they turn into their caves and try to escape the situation through stuff like procrastination or even worse, drugs, alcohol and other detrimental stuff.

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The root cause of negative habit patterns can almost always be traced back to “destructive criticism” in early childhood. Often, destructive criticism is accompanied by physical punishment. In either or both cases, the child very quickly loses his or her natural spontaneity and becomes fearful and hypersensitive to others (Million Dollar habits).

The Solution Is Within

The most effective and appropriate solution to these issues is prioritization of your self-esteem growth. You basically need to like yourself enough so that you can conquer these fears. The greatest habit you can ever develop is the habit of deliberately building your own self-esteem and self-confidence on a daily basis. 

The very fastest way to build your self-esteem and self-confidence, and to neutralize the fears that may be holding you back, is to repeat continually the words “I like myself!” Whenever you feel doubtful or uneasy, begin repeating these words to yourself, “I like myself! I like myself! I like myself!”