You’ve heard this many times… “You are the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.” I personally like to forget the number and focus on the part that says “you spend your time with.” Why is that? Because the number is completely irrelevant. If you spend all your time with a single person, that person will inevitably have the most influence on you. Or will she? In this article, we’ll look at how your environment affects your progress, your thinking and ultimately your success.
Taking responsibility for your life
In the introduction above, we stressed the importance of you spending your time with the people around you. It is crucial for you to understand that you are responsible for everything that happens in your life. This doesn’t mean that you should blame yourself for everything that has happened in your life before. You need to remind yourself that you are in control of your life. That is why you need to hold yourself accountable for everything that happens to you. You are in control. You are the only person that can change something and your environment that affects you greatly is one of those things only you can change.
The power of your surroundings
Why is my environment so powerful? Why does it influence me so much? This has to do with your subconscious mind and the way it is programmed. There are many ways you can programme your subconscious mind that include your self-talk or for instance your environment. The one feature that underlines this influence is the regularity of anything in your life. Our brain works in a way that allows it to make fast decisions based on your memory from the past events that were similar to the present one. This means that when you encounter something brand new, your brain looks for the closest similar thought you have stored and connects the present thought to it. Furthermore, our brain works on the basis of regularity, which basically means that it works based on the habits it creates. This means that the more you think a certain thought, the more true it becomes. Thus it follows that the more you hear or see something negative, the more negative you will think. This analysis comes from the book called What to Say When You Talk to Yourself written by Shad Helmstetter Ph.D. Now that you see why the environment you live in is so important to your state of mind and to your behaviour, let’s look at how you can improve it so that you think positively, grow and progress towards your goals.
Setting your surroundings for success
When thinking about how to create a positive and growth supporting environment, you need to think about the ways you perceive the environment around yourself. You are what you consume. We are ultimately affected by our thoughts that are triggered mainly by our vision and hearing. These are the two larger things you can directly affect. First, let’s focus on controlling what you hear. It sounds more than obvious that you need to switch from all the depressing songs about lost love to something more forward-looking that will get you to a more focused and positive state. Further, you need to make sure that you spend more time around people who are forward looking and who like to talk about positives, rather than to brag about negatives. It’s good to regularly listen to positive talks, motivational songs etc. to keep yourself on the track and to support the believer in you. Always tell yourself, you are what you consume. Second, you need to control what you see. This includes the videos you watch, the posts you read, the books you read, the news you skim through, everything that is visual. This can be, again, controlled by you. You need to make sure that you see little of negatives and lots of positives. For instance, you can create posters with positive quotes or your goals (for goal visualisation) that you hang somewhere visible in your room. Stop following these deep-quote pages on Instagram that are relatable, but make you feel terrible about yourself. You are what you consume, so go crazy on seeing and hearing only the stuff that will help you grow.
Speaking to yourself
Finally, as we have already discussed in our recent post, where we look at how incredibly you can affect your subconscious mind only by thinking specific thoughts regularly, you need to make sure that when the most important person (yes, that’s you) is speaking to yourself, you can hear positivity and support. Make sure you go through that article as well to truly bulletproof your mindset. Learn how to speak to yourself in a way that kicks you in the butt and reminds you that you are in control, you are the winner and that you need to progress and change positively in order to achieve whatever you are aiming for.
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